Exploring Different Types of Orgasms: A Guide to Pleasure

Want to explore the different kinds of orgasms? Here’s a secret I tell my clients as a sex coach:

F*ck yourself the way you wanna be f*cked. 

This might just be…

…the answer to your problem. 

You feel unsatisfied in your relationship. 

You feel unexcited about life in general. 

Each day you spin in the repetitious soup you’ve created. 

Time to f*ck yourself the way you wanna be f*cked. 

Drip in your zestiness. 

Melt into your arms.

Your orgasm is your responsibility, no one else’s. 

When you take responsibility for your pleasure, life will show up for you.

This is the first piece of advice I give to my sex and intimacy coach clients when it comes to exploring different types of orgasms. 

Start with you, touch yourself in ways you’ve never been touched before. 

Enhance your sexual desire… with yourself. 

Spice up your sexual passion… with yourself. 

Release sexual tension… with yourself.

So… what can you do?

Instead of giving you specific things to do and you go and regurgitate them in the bedroom, 

I’m going to reflect the mirror back at you and ask, 

What’s something you can change in your self pleasure practice?

Doesn’t even have to be this grandiose act, could be something small. 

Maybe you’ve done the same motions for however many years. 

Or used the same type of lotion or lube. 

Watched the same type of porn. 

Gone to the same sexual fantasies in your mind to get to where you need to go. 

People talk about that initial spark and their desire to get it back again in relationships. 

And yet, are still doing the same moves from 1982. 

And you wonder why there’s no sexual passion?

You wonder why you’re bored with life?

Passion requires variety, a newness.

My love, it’s time to switch it up. 

Sexual Coaching Examples from Clients 

I had a client recently who started looking at himself in the mirror when he self pleasured. 

What he didn’t know was that this simple act would enhance his confidence. 

He showed up differently in business meetings, gave less f*cks throughout the day. 

I had another sex coach client who stopped using vibrators and switched to glass dildos. 

Her body became more sensitive and enhanced her capacity to have different types of orgasms. 

This also helped her ballroom dance, she was more in tune with the smaller movements her body could make and thus more in tune with her dance partners energy. 

When you shift things in the bedroom, outside of the bedroom will shift too.

One more example, myself. 

Before I get out of bed in the morning, I regularly put my hand over my vulva to tell her she’s safe and I love her. 

I can’t even count the amount of things that have shifted with that small act of love and kindness towards my body. 

My intuition of knowing what’s happening my body has gotten stronger. 

It’s expanded my level of compassion for myself and others. 

My level of pleasure has expanded as my body continues to feel more safe. 

I’m healthier in my mental, emotional and physical state. 

My invitation to you as a sexual coach…

This article is an invitation for you to get down with your damn self in a way you maybe never have before. 

Variety is the spice of life after all. 

That saying isn’t there just because. 

It’s the truth. 

Spice it up, and have fun.